tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6104797416476983528.post575258920552982654..comments2023-03-19T08:57:21.125-06:00Comments on Unstoppable You!: Tell Me How You Really FeelCindihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18082361637883853704noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6104797416476983528.post-72913036263054111612009-06-09T22:47:46.142-06:002009-06-09T22:47:46.142-06:00Hmmm. I know we have a few grad students form othe...Hmmm. I know we have a few grad students form other countries who do not like how casually we use "How are you" or "have a good day". They get very offended when strangers or people they don't know well at asll ask them that 0 they see it as private.<br />Me? Well, I find very often, people ask me it and don't ever listen to my response...I don't say it unless I am willing to listen to it...unless I want to know. Bexuase I do. Because what if you aren't having a good day? Do you lie? How hurtful would I be if I just walked away? To me, if a friend or coworker is having a bad day I'll stay and listen...<br />And some people never get asked. It's sad, but true...and if someone does ask them, they want to tell someone, ANYone how they are. Just cuz someone actually asked. I think it's unfiair to ask a total stranger that...although every once in a while I have asked that of a stranger, when I can see that they aren't OK...cuz I know what that can feel like. And maybe I can help...<br /><br />Just my thoughts.Geosominhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15729167937433295927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6104797416476983528.post-30506481858803583532009-06-09T15:01:20.097-06:002009-06-09T15:01:20.097-06:00Stuff like this allows us to connect, which is wha...Stuff like this allows us to connect, which is what people are really craving in this techno-loaded world. I think it's great that those people went beyond the standard greeting. Sometimes, yes, that's all it is: a politeness. But other time..ohhhh it's a chance to reach out and be Jesus! :)Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10994483225228002960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6104797416476983528.post-51760842527519008752009-06-09T13:54:30.576-06:002009-06-09T13:54:30.576-06:00Great questions. I have been preaching on this for...Great questions. I have been preaching on this for years, and sometimes, literally preaching it. :)<br /><br />This is far too often our standard greeting/response in churches too, and I would argue it hinders true community much more than it helps. It gives people a chance to hide behind pleasantries, and if I may be so bold, probably encourages people to lie more often than not.<br /><br />I've told people that I don't ask this question anymore if I'm not prepared to hear the answer. It's not that I don't care how they are. In fact, maybe asking the "How are you" question only to be nice and expecting the "fine. How are you?" response is less caring! It allows us to keep on our "shiny happy people" masks on without engaging one bit with others.<br /><br />So I've exhorted folks to change the culture (just a small dream, I know :) ) and not ask the question unless you really want to know. And to not answer it with, "Fine" unless that's really how you are.<br /><br />Just $0.02 for you!Michael Schutzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01116255808811732213noreply@blogger.com